There is no magical city where you land, open your suitcase and suddenly become good with women. If you avoid approaching at home, you may discover that you are perfectly capable of avoiding it in another time zone.
That is the first point in this episode because the question usually comes with an unspoken hope. Somewhere else, it will be easy. Somewhere else, I won't have to deal with my own hesitation.
A different environment can help. But choose it for reasons you can explain, rather than asking geography to solve a skill problem.
Know what you are choosing for
The right place depends on what you enjoy and who you want to meet. Do you like the city itself? Can you imagine spending ordinary days there? Is the social environment one you want to participate in?
You are going to live a life between dates. If you dislike everything about the place except a fantasy about its women, that is a weak basis for choosing it. People are individuals, and a country is not a catalogue promising your preferred type on arrival.
Then look at your budget. Accommodation, transport and daily life determine how much freedom you actually have once you arrive. A prestigious address that leaves you anxious about every expense may not improve your experience very much.
In the recording I contrast expensive cities with cheaper alternatives. Those examples belong to the time of recording. Before booking, check current costs and practical requirements for the particular trip you are considering.
Language and opportunity matter
You can meet people without sharing a fluent language. I have done it. But communication can be easier when you speak enough of the local language to understand each other, especially while you are still learning to approach.
Be honest about your current skills. If conversation is a large part of how you connect, choosing a place where you cannot communicate adds a real challenge. You can prepare by learning useful phrases and considering where you are likely to meet people who share a language with you.
Opportunity matters too. A place with an active social life gives you more chances to practise than somewhere you rarely meet anybody new. That doesn't require treating every passer-by as an assignment. It means choosing a life where introductions can happen naturally and respectfully.
For a beginner, repeated practice may matter more than finding the supposedly perfect destination.
Your wider life sets the limits
An experienced man faces a different question. Perhaps his work ties him to one location, even though another would fit the lifestyle he wants better. Then the problem includes money, work flexibility and what he is willing to change.
You cannot solve that by reading a ranking of cities. You have to decide what your time is for and what tradeoffs you are prepared to make.
The public episode lays out these criteria. The longer discussion continues into my personal destination choices.
Write down your budget, language ability, practical constraints and what you want from daily life. Use those to narrow your options. Then remember that wherever you go, you are still the person who has to walk out of the door and introduce himself.
