You can get a woman to stop and still fail to communicate why you wanted to speak to her. That is the mistake this update addresses.

The conversation begins politely, stays polite and becomes another conversation that could have happened between anybody. Then the man wonders why it feels awkward to introduce attraction twenty minutes later.

What you communicate at the beginning establishes the direction. If you conceal your interest, do not be surprised when the interaction feels as though it has no sexual context.

Teaching showed me the missing piece

My earlier material reflected my own way of communicating. I am direct. I do not naturally need much encouragement to make my interest clear.

Teaching students showed me that they could repeat parts of the structure while delivering a very different message. They were more cautious. They toned things down. By the time the words came out, the attraction had almost disappeared from them.

The Warsaw teaching experience I discuss in this December 2020 recording made that gap particularly obvious.

A useful system has to survive being used by someone who does not already have the teacher's habits. That sometimes means making an instruction more explicit than the teacher originally thought necessary.

A compliment should communicate something

The adjustment was simple. After introducing yourself, say what actually attracted you to her.

A general compliment can begin the conversation. Something more specific makes your personal interest easier to understand. She might be exactly your type. There may be something about her style or presence that caught your attention.

The point is not to search for a socially impressive observation. It is to say something true that explains why you came over.

In my terminology, the Hustlerisms develop that expression of attraction. They are supposed to keep the message clear, not bury it beneath assumptions about her job, nationality or personality.

You have barely met her. You do not need to pretend you have decoded her entire life.

Simple still requires practice

Because the instruction is simple, some men assume it cannot be the important part. They would rather have another elaborate sequence to remember.

But a simple message can be delivered badly. You can rush it, mumble it, apologise for it or turn it into a joke because you are afraid to stand behind it.

Work on saying what you mean in a friendly, composed way. Then leave room for her reaction. You are speaking to someone, not firing a presentation at her.

An enthusiastic response is useful feedback. A polite thank-you may simply be politeness. If she is not interested in continuing, accept that. No opening is bulletproof in the sense of making another person's choice disappear.

Get the beginning clear

The fuller member recording continues into the closing sequence. The opening lesson stands on its own.

You do not need to be crude to be direct, and you do not need to create a long neutral conversation before admitting that you find someone attractive. The practical challenge is to make your words, tone and actual intention agree.

That is what simple, efficient and exciting means here. Remove the unnecessary performance. Keep the part that tells her who is standing in front of her and why he wanted to meet her.

Then find out whether she wants to meet him too.