You went out to meet women and spent most of the afternoon drinking coffee with your wing. Then you went home and described it as a session of game.
It was a session of coffee. The distinction is worth getting right.
Bullet Proof Instant Dating is about the mindset behind actually meeting a woman and inviting her to spend time with you. The title does not mean there is a trick that makes every invitation work. The recording explicitly rejects that idea.
An approach is the beginning
I compare approaching with lead generation because it starts the possibility of a date. That comparison has limits, of course. You are meeting a person with her own preferences, not processing a sale.
The useful part is remembering that a first conversation is not the whole objective. If you collect numbers but never spend time with the women you meet, you may be getting good at an intermediate step while avoiding the next one.
Look at what you actually wanted from the interaction. If you would like to go on a date, make room for that question instead of endlessly polishing the introduction.
Two practical questions
Is she attracted to you, and does she have time to continue now? Those are the questions I put at the centre of instant dating.
You cannot answer the first by wishful thinking. Express your interest and listen to her response. You cannot answer the second by assuming that her schedule is an obstacle she ought to remove. Ask whether she would like to join you and accept the answer.
When interest and availability are both there, an instant date can be straightforward. You suggest a nearby coffee or drink and continue getting to know each other. There is no rule saying that a good conversation must end so that you can attempt to restart it by text several days later.
Stop performing a stranger's script
A lot of unnecessary complexity comes from trying to identify the exact moment at which you have completed somebody else's model. You keep looking for a hook point while the actual conversation is already telling you whether she wants to engage.
My preference is directness. Make the reason you approached clear, exchange enough ordinary information to understand the situation and suggest continuing when that makes sense.
You do not need to investigate her childhood to invite her for a drink. Equally, if she needs more time or does not want a date, that is her choice. A simpler method should make your communication clearer, not make you less willing to hear her.
Use confidence without making it a performance
The point of the Straight Line Seduction System is to keep the romantic direction in mind. Men often substitute a long safe conversation for the risk of discovering whether attraction is mutual.
The risk worth taking is an honest invitation. You can be clear without being rude and decisive without deciding for somebody else.
The public episode introduces these ideas before the fuller members' discussion. For your next session, start with the obvious. Spend time talking to women you actually want to meet. When there is returned interest, make a clear suggestion. Then you have something real to respond to, instead of another afternoon of discussing what you might do.
